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Adult DevelopmentCognitive Aspects of Thriving Close Relationships$

Jan D. Sinnott

Print publication date: 2014

Print ISBN-13: 9780199892815

Published to Oxford Scholarship Online: August 2014

DOI: 10.1093/acprof:oso/9780199892815.001.0001

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(p.141) Appendix 2 Relationship Maintenance Questionnaire Used in Study 2

(p.141) Appendix 2 Relationship Maintenance Questionnaire Used in Study 2

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Respondents were asked the following:

Please select a choice that most resembles your feelings about each statement:

Completely disagree, Somewhat disagree, Neutral, Somewhat agree, Completely agree

Routine Maintenance Items

I often ask my partner how their day was.

I routinely share household duties such as cooking, cleaning, budgeting, and repairs with my partner.

I prefer to show my feelings in small and subtle ways. (p.142)

I hug, kiss, or tell my partner I love them in greeting, or in parting.

I find regularly sending cards, gifts, or flowers on birthdays and romantic holidays meaningless and shallow. (Negative)

I consistently participate in activities that my partner and I enjoy.

I repeatedly fulfill my duties as a partner in my relationship.

My partner and I regularly work as a team to care for and maintain the health of our pets.

I include my partner with daily decisions.

My partner and I make a habit of activities like praying, meditating, or attending spiritual events together.

We have favorite activities that we have a habit of doing every weekend.

I tend to have sex with my partner on the same day(s) of the week.

I don’t like to help out if my partner asks me to do something repeatedly. (Negative)

I believe a good relationship can be taken for granted. (Negative)

Strategic Maintenance Items

I listen carefully to my partner’s complaints and offer advice when asked.

I take time to plan outings and activities I know my partner will enjoy.

I find ways to let my partner know I appreciate them. (p.143)

I strive to compliment my partner often.

I give up working on problems with my partner if they’re being too difficult. (Negative)

I tend not to communicate with my partner because I feel uncomfortable verbally expressing my feelings. (Negative)

I would consider seeking advice to help maintain my relationship.

I take time out of my schedule to strengthen my relationship.

I go out of my way to surprise my partner from time to time.

I try to make my partner feel special.

I get satisfaction from trying to make things work out happily for my partner and me.

I don’t think it’s vital to understand my partner’s feelings. (Negative)

Part of the pleasure of having a close relationship is understanding your partner’s personality.

(For “Negative” items scoring is reversed.)