t
's “Self-Choice” and Rukmi
's Elopement
t
's Svayamvara is contrasted with Krishna's first consort, Rukmini's elopement. Notwithstanding the name, S
t
's Svayamvara is not really a self-choice marriage in any of the sources. The television version is most emphatic in stressing that it is not personal feelings but rather considerations of family that should prevail in arranging a marriage. The movies nearly unequivocally follow suit. Rukmini's elopement scenario seems viable to some extent in the classical version, though it comes at a substantial cost for the woman who has to break all bonds with her parental kin. The medieval version downplays that cost. The televised version does not dwell on this either, and it pays lip service to the priority of women's choice in arranging the marriage, but gives her little voice. By contrast, the films of the nineties are emphatic in denying the validity of elopement. Whatever the divine models may say, in films parental authority keeps love in check. Movies discussed are Hum aapke hain koun..!, Maine Pyar kiya, Dilwale Dulhania Le Jayenge, Dulhan hum le jayenge, Pardes, and Ram teri Ganga maili.